No argument, everything is received better these days when simplified. However, there seems to be a disconnect between how we as leaders, ministers, and friends think we are going to be able to offer something to someone with out putting in the truly complex, hard, and taxing work of figuring things out ourselves first! We need to get real about this – and while I’m not claiming expertise, hopefully these tips can help.
We need to get honest about the hard thinking and the hard work that is involved in truly developing ourselves as people who “shine as lights in the world” of a crooked and twisted generation (Phil 2:15-16). Inside and outside our church, we have an obsession with “real” these days. Think about it, reality TV is everywhere and one of the harshest insults you can give these days is to say, “You’re fake!”
I fear we’re becoming a people who lean towards the fake ourselves though. Acting “nice” to compensate for our lack of real, solid, grounding in truth and hope to offer anyone. It’s time we get real from inside the church and tell people that it’s not as easy as it looks to be a person with actual substance. It takes work.