An overwhelming new trend is sweeping the everywhere. Anyone who doesn’t do it deserves to be nowhere. If you don’t practice it, you’re a nobody. It makes you powerful, effective, everyone’s favorite and more! Whether you’re in leadership, ministry, or any kind of relationship, you’ve no doubt seen the effects of this at least a few times!
What is it you ask? Well, ya big dumby: It’s called Knowing Everything!
I can’t believe you didn’t know that. Sheesh…
In all seriousness though, I guess it is hip these days to pretend you’re Google, and the only way to speak is as if you’re an expert on a subject. In fact, it’s even cool to take something you hope is true, and tell others as matter-of-factly as possible, no questions to be asked, and have it be so.
My favorite example: “Well, I mean ya know the Bible does say _______ about speaking, praying, and standing on your head in tongues!”
“Oh really? Where does it say that? You’ve studied that, eh?”
Especially over such controversial subjects, wouldn’t it be better if we could learn to say, “Hey, I actually have no idea, can’t explain it, never heard of nor read about, or don’t know enough to teach on this.” Wow! Wouldn’t that be liberating!
Now, I’ve been there myself, and failed on all sides of this matter. I continue to, in fact. But, this also means that I easily recognize it in others – this believing we have to know everything. It’s troubling to me. So I want to call it out.
We need to learn to stop secretly Googling in our pockets, humble ourselves, and practice the freedom of saying, “I don’t know!” Go ahead and try it right now. I bet you live through it.
WHERE IT BEGINS, IT CONTINUES
Yet this is a self perpetuating problem. Where ever we begin to create a culture or even just a personal identity around always having the answer, it will spread. It becomes a competition amongst friends. It becomes an expectation in a community. To fit in or keep up, you must know more.
I’ve seen this in everything from leaders in an organization to friendships and even marriages where a spouse feels they prove their intelligence. That’s unreasonable and prideful for both parties, and I’m both tired of it myself and annoyed with it in others. It makes for a very unteachable community in which nobody wants to follow and nobody can lead.
I don’t want to be a contributor to that silly sense of shame if you don’t know something (please forgive me if I ever have made you feel this way). I don’t want others to learn that from me.
I’m not saying act like you don’t know something if you do. If you know me, you know I’m definitely not saying that. Stand, and stand strong for what you know. I’m saying don’t assume you know something just cause some supposed “expert” told you something once, because your mama or your pastor said so, you want it to be true, or read one tiny thing on it once (or saw a stupid infographic on Facebook).
Please, be free to admit you don’t know and allow me to do the same. I’m going to respect you more for it and together we can learn. I love learning…
So, I’m crowd sourcing this:
How do we begin to create a culture that does always desire to know more, but when doesn’t, is unashamed, not scared, free and appreciated for saying, “I don’t know!”
If you want to read my theory on how this expectation and mentality came about, read my other article on this: Why We Think We Must Know Everything & Hate To Say We Don’t