To be honest, I feel it’s a tad ridiculous that I’m even writing this…
However, I get asked questions like this aaall the time because of one blog post I wrote once upon a time. One post!
This one post, on the difference between Facebook “Restricted” and “Acquaintance” lists, gets more traffic from Google search results than all my other posts on my blog combined. This didn’t used to be true, but after my entire year off from blogging, stats are down on all but this one silly post. Ha!
Plus, to make this even more ridiculous, it is definitely one of the only posts I wrote on this blog as an “afterthought” and followup post to the one I actually tried to make helpful and do well, which was: How To Use Facebook Friends Lists To Their Maximum Potential
That one got very little attention – and admittedly the headline is stupid – but it’s followup post on the list differences is big time popular.
It’s given me an interesting perspective, and a bit sad at that, but here’s what I’ve learned: People are shady!
People are crazy interested in hiding their Facebook stuff from their other friends – like, crazy interested in it. The stats are huge, and the amount of questions I get on it is huge!
So all this to say now, I’m going to reply to a question I’ve received multiple times now in light of that post, and take the opportunity to tell you something that will benefit you the rest of your life…
The Question I Get All The Time (Or Variation Of It):
“Can I hide my friends from other friends?”
“I don’t want some people to see who some of my friends are – how do I hide certain people from these certain people!?”
In other words, “How can I be as shady player / disobey my parents / deceive my significant other whom I’m just using or my pleasure / etc.” Still, I have been asked this so often in comments or messages that it’s time to simply write one little post to answer it. So here’s the simple answer I will be linking to from now on:
The Super Simple Way To Control Your Friend List Privacy On Facebook
Well, the thing is, whether for good or bad, you can hide nearly anything and everything on Facebook, and if you use the “Lists” feature wisely, you can segment your friends and stay organized in any and every way you can come up with.
After, you’ve created your different friends lists, you then go to the “Friends” tab on your Profile page.
Next, click on the big “Edit Privacy” button (currently on the top right of your Friends list).
A box will pop up, apart from any strange updates they do in the future, and you will have a few super simple options to control the privacy of your peoples.
You can then choose to create a “Custom” setting and hide your shady life from anyone and everyone in any and every way you can come up with.
Just choose the lists you want to keep from seeing things – be it Restricted, Acquaintances, or any other custom list you want.
It’s that simple.
But, here’s my parting advice…
No matter what you think you accomplish, nothing beats living a transparent life! Having things to hide is no way to live a life, and hiding things from people is no way to care about people. This will make you and others miserable, whether you acknowledge it or not.
If it matters to the person you’re hiding something from, you’re the problem, not them.
Hope you get it worked out…
If there’s any exception to this idea, please let me know in the comments. Perhaps there are reasons I can’t think of to be hiding “friends” from “friends”… I’m open to the possibility, but doubtful.