*Update: This has become my most trafficked post from Google search. However, I never wrote it to be a “hit”. In fact, I wrote it in about ten minutes as an aside to my vlog post: “How To Use Facebook Friends Lists To Their Maximum Potential”. So while I’m glad you’re stopping by, you need to know that I was primarily writing for people and leaders in ministry of the Christian faith at the time.
While I’ve pivoted much of my content since then, I still believe what I said here and still use these lists to guard my heart and mind from unnecessary crap. So if you get snarky in the comments, I reserve the right to either delete it or use your silliness as an example for others to learn from. Your call. :)
So you’re wondering what the differences are in Restricted and Acquaintances lists? I was too once!
They both have the ability to group people and limit their exposure to your posts and vice versa, right? Well, that’s good, but then why two!? How do you know which list to put people in!? Does it matter?
It does. Let me explain…
IT’S ALL IN YOUR OPINION OF THEM
You’ll quickly see that there is, in fact, two distinct reasons for these two distinct lists. To do this, I’ll give you my personal take on these.
Let’s start with the Acquaintances. These are people you don’t really care to see updates from that often.
Yes, you can also control what they see of you, which is good, but primarily this is about what you do or don’t want to see from them! No hard feelings…
We’re talking, maybe, the kids that added you and are always talking nonsense and filling your timeline with noise. You wanna be nice and accept their “friendship” but, “whoa, less noise please!” This is the list!
How about the 12019313239273652 girls that are trolling for attention by posting pictures of themselves all-but-nude? This is the list! How about that guy that’s always doing political or social rants of some kind? Prime candidate for this list! Ha, pun.
Maybe you’re a leader in the public eye and you have lots of people who think you’re “friends”, but in all honesty you don’t care what they ate for supper, or to see the 10th picture of their dog that day, or to hear about how she’s “so angry she’s about to go off on yada, yada, yada.” Well, Acquaintance those folks!
Again, yes you can control what these folks see of you as well by using your Audience Selector in your posting box (remember, go watch my post or check out the comments), but bottom line thinking here:
“I don’t wanna see _______ from _______.”
Then there’s the Restricted. These are the people you don’t want seeing your updates.
Yes you can control this in other ways, but this is more of a blanket fix. Ya know, for those people you just know, that you know, that you know, ya don’t want them creepin on ya! Ha!
Once someone goes in this list, the only way they see your content is if it’s posted as Public in your Audience Selector when you post, or if you directly tag them.
I’d have to admit that I rarely find use for this list. I guess perhaps if you’re wanting to hide things from your boss you might find it useful (but one of you has a problem then).
Perhaps though, again your someone in the public eye and you don’t want people seeing your baby pictures, status updates from your out-of-town trips, honeymoon speedo shots, etc., If that’s you, then, well, there’s a few uses for it.
Bottom line thinking here:
“I don’t want _______ seeing my ________.
SO HOW DO I, MYSELF, UTILIZE THESE?
The way I look at it is this: If I’m called to be an ambassador for Christ, then I want as many people seeing what I say and do as possible. This means I rarely ever have anyone just plain Restricted. I do at different times though for rare reasons.
Ya know, basically it’s that I think I’m pretty awesome. (Ha! Joke) I mean, If they want to be my “friend” then they get to see my stuff – with some discretion! I’m all about transparency.
If they don’t like it, they don’t need to add me as a “friend”.
The Acquaintances list though, is a huge deal for me. Here’s why this has been so helpful for me (and my wife feels more secure and loved because of it):
Females on Facebook are often looking for attention – like most all of us - with their bodies these days. I don’t believe this is a healthy situation for myself, or any one. It objectifies them, and stirs discontentment in others. Don’t we all agree that’s not the best way to be valued!?
So my Acquaintances list is loaded with tons of females who “troll for attention with their body as bait” – as I’m fond of putting it. They’ll catch something, and probably not what they’re wanting, but I want to guard myself from it being me.
I never have to see these 47 mirror shots, 33 new outfits, and 58 bikini photos per week. Less war on the mind, heart, and soul. It’s a good thing.
Outta site is usually out of mind for me. Thank you lists!
For men or other people who just seem creepy, annoying, or crazy, I can just control their population of my feeds on an individual basis with the selector box on their profile in the right hand corner.
It drops down, you select the updates you’d like and how often. Boom. Done.
The best news of all: Nope, your “friends” are never notified if they’re put on these lists! It’s super easy and private!
Have any other questions or suggestions? How do you use lists? Leave them in the comments below and let me know if this helped ya!